KRISTI EIDE

FIT MOM | WRITER | DREAMER

 

Kirk Morales Photography

Born and raised in the Midwest, I am a small town girl at heart, but currently reside in Arizona where the sun is always shining. Writing has been a passion of mine since the second grade and is one of my favorite ways to spend alone time. I am a millennial mommy in every sense of the word, and have experienced being both a single mom and a (sometimes) single mom.

My son's father and I dated on and off for six years prior to finding out I was pregnant in 2010. We lived in separate states at the time but ultimately decided to try life together as a family. We  struggled immensely with adapting to life in a single household and were falling apart at the seams pretty much from the get-go. Happier times from earlier dating years were nothing more than a (very) distant memory, and shortly before our son's third birthday we split up.

I was very bitter about our failed relationship for the first six months post-breakup. I wanted a family and all he seemed to want was a life free from responsibility. Our relationship quickly turned from one of co-parenting into one in which we could barely speak to each other without arguing. Lucky for me, my son was a great sport and we did everything together, from Nebraska football tailgates to trips to the nail salon.

An amazing opportunity to move to Arizona came about early in 2014 and my son and I packed our bags shortly after. By the time we left Nebraska I had adapted to life as a single mom and we were doing just fine on our own. 

Nothing about being a single parent is easy. Living paycheck to paycheck is not easy, nor is it fun. Having to be "on" 24-7 and never getting a break is exhausting. But the bond formed between my son and I over those next couple of years made every single struggle worth it. We learned to be a team and to rely solely on each other. We have made a thousand memories together. I learned to be more organized and efficient with my time. My career did not suffer, time spent dedicated to my other passion (fitness) did not decrease, and special moments spent with my son were too numerous to count. Being a single mom was an opportunity to prove to myself that I could do it alone. That feeling of independence has been priceless in so many areas of my life.

Not every story has a happy ending, and I am still working on mine...but things are looking up. My son's father has since moved to Arizona and he and I are working on things. More importantly we are spending a lot of quality time together as a family. We have a long way to go but we are finding joy in this part of the journey. Writing has been my creative outlet throughout this entire process and I look forward to sharing the lessons I've learned along the way. If even one person finds inspiration on these pages, I have achieved the goal I set out to accomplish. Life is not about knowing, it is about growing.

My son Keylen was born in 2010 and is the absolute love of my life. You will get to know his vibrant personality well throughout these pages. He wants to be a Power Ranger when he grows up.

UPDATE: My son's father and I made the decision in early 2016 to give things another try and  later that year we welcomed our second son, Kohen, into this world. I am now perpetually late to EVERYTHING and my home is a constant madhouse. Did I mention I am outnumbered 3:1? Life is good and I wouldn't have it any other way. 

 

 

 

 

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