(Sometimes) Single?

When I was about 6 months into being a single mom I was having a conversation with a coworker who casually mentioned that her husband never made it home until about 8PM each night. Thus, she lamented she was "pretty much like a single mom" too. At the time I was incredibly annoyed... how dare she compare her life to mine. We were nothing alike and she was most definitely not a single mom by any set of standards. 

A couple years have passed since that moment, and while I still remember it vividly, I feel very differently about the conversation now. I have discussed this at length with others, read numerous articles (and felt the same contention I used to feel), and ultimately formulated my own opinion over time. A single mom, in the true sense of the word, is a parent who is navigating the world alone and (hands down) has the toughest job out there. I have nothing but respect and admiration for single mothers everywhere, and I believe most everyone feels likewise. 

Now, on the flip side of the coin, what about all the millennial mommies who aren't single 24/7 BUT still pull double duty with a career + mommyhood (maybe their husbands work 80 hours a week)? What about the ones whose partners/husbands/children's fathers travel a majority of the time or work overnight, leaving them solo a large percentage of the time? What about military mommies who have husbands serving over seas for months (years) at a time? Or the mommies and daddies who are living long-distance because of work circumstances? Are these moms any less significant? Are their jobs any less hard? Some say yes, some say no.

My best friend Carissa & my son Keylen. She has always been my second set of hands.

Photo Cred: Kirk Morales Photogaphy

Regardless your definition of what constitutes a single mom, I believe there are struggles and sacrifices across the board for millennial mommies as a whole. And even though major strides have been made over the past decade in terms of gender roles, women are still largely responsible for child rearing. I want all moms, even the (sometimes) single moms, to have a place to find trusted advice, helpful tips, and a community of women who are inspiring and empowering. That being said, this section of the blog is dedicated to these women. And though they may not fit into a defined niche, they still face many of the same challenges as single mothers do, just to varying degrees. 

So for all you modern mommies out there, pulling double duty, balancing careers plus PTA meetings, I tip my hat to you. You CAN have it all. You just have to want it bad enough.