With Valentine’s Day upon us, rather than letting you struggle to find the “perfect gift”, I figured I would be super awesome and help you out. What I actually want this year is just to remind you how awesome we are when we are a team, and hope that we can get back to that point. You know, T-E-A-M, like a group thing… not M-E. When mommy is happy, everyone is happy. You know what they say: happy wifey, happy lifey.
A recent forum conversation struck an odd chord with me. It took place in a community of (largely) single mothers and it almost felt live a scorned, dumped mommy club. Having been a single mother for a few years, and also having some experience with the topic at hand, I was in the HUGE minority with my stance on the issue. Perhaps this is due to the fact that I am a millennial mommy and my views are more liberal than those who have gone before me?
Behind every pretty, smart, and successful woman stands...herself. Being single can be empowering and more importantly, it’s fun! But at some point, many single mothers toy with the idea of dating again. And thanks to online dating sites, getting back out there is easier than you think. All those nights spent stalking people on Facebook and Instagram, well, online dating is kind of like that.
A few years back when I was a single mother fresh on the dating scene, a guy told me “…you’d be really hot if you weren’t a mom.” To which I thought, you’d be really hot if you weren’t…not. His statement didn’t warrant a response of any kind from me, except an exaggerated eye roll. I don’t recall what the guy who said it looked like, or even his name (obviously because he wasn’t worth committing to memory), but it did get me thinking.