Going out as a mommy can be difficult. For some of us, it’s been months (or even years) since we’ve been out. If you are in need of MNO (Mom’s Night Out) and are going to brave the crowds, follow these unwritten rules and no one will even give a second glance at your mom jeans and spit-up soaked shirt.
Finding out that my second baby was going to be a boy was a little bit of a shock. I’m not sure if it’s just because I had told myself it was going to be a girl (like I had previously done with my son), or the simple fact that my motherly instinct was, well, wrong again. Regardless, in that instant, I felt all of the pink-coated dreams quickly slip between my fingers.
All too often we judge others over issues we know little to nothing about. We point fingers and condemn rather than seeking to understand, and we criticize rather than assuming positive intent. Why is that? My guess (unfortunately) is that it’s just human nature. By some twisted form of logic, putting others down makes us feel superior. There is no one single way to parent “correctly”, and the amount of judging and grief we give to moms is ridiculous and has to stop.
When I was pregnant I had grand dreams of white fluffy coats, pink headbands and bows, adorable little leggings and a room full of baby dolls. I was actually so intensely sure that I was going to have a girl that when the Ultrasound Tech shared the news that it was a boy, I broke down and cried.
“I’m not like regular moms, I’m a cool mom” said literally every mother… ever. But what really makes a mom cool? Isn’t cool a subjective word anyways? If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, then cool definitely falls into the same category. And kids’ minds are also easily shaped, so essentially, you can make them believe whatever you want. But being a cool mom is more than that. It means appearing cool to other moms too, not just your kids. And if you so desire this type of coolness, be prepared to do the following.