While everyone has their own parenting style, certain styles often get more attention than others. One of the more recent, and sometimes controversial styles, is gender-neutral parenting, which encompasses a wide range of beliefs and behaviors. For many millennial moms and dads, gender-neutral parenting often begins with simply saying no to the traditional idea that “blue is for boys and pink is for girls” and yes to the idea of self-expression.
I’ve heard it over and over again from my single mother friends, “...joint custody totally sucks. I hate not seeing my kids.” I absolutely sympathize with mothers who loathe missing out on 50% of their child’s life. That’s A LOT of time to be away from your trusty little sidekick(s). And I can’t say that I can empathize with you, because I actually have no idea what it feels like to split custody with another parent. However, I do understand what it feels like to be on the other side of the spectrum.
As women, we’re supposed to be this impenetrable force that can juggle a zillion tasks at once, run a household, organize the kids, and look good while doing it. But lately it seems that the harshest group of critics out there is exactly that “impenetrable force” made up on our fellow mommies. If you like to enjoy a glass of wine on the weekdays, or take your kids to PG-13 movies, or let them stay up until midnight on the weekends, you can bet there’s somebody out there who has something to say about it.
All too often we judge others over issues we know little to nothing about. We point fingers and condemn rather than seeking to understand, and we criticize rather than assuming positive intent. Why is that? My guess (unfortunately) is that it’s just human nature. By some twisted form of logic, putting others down makes us feel superior. There is no one single way to parent “correctly”, and the amount of judging and grief we give to moms is ridiculous and has to stop.
I don’t know about you, but I would like to challenge our elder generation when they tell us how great life “used to be” and how horrible things are today… especially in regards to how we raise our children. There is nothing horrible about our generation. It’s just different. And since when is different a bad thing? So please stop mumbling “kids these days” under your breath, while shaking your head in disapproval. Kids these days are just fine, as will be the kids of tomorrow, and the following generation.