Every mother knows that close ties between kids and parents are vital for a happy childhood; yet, we’re all too quick to forget that rapport with Mother Nature, who is just as important. The cornerstones of environmental responsibility are laid out at an early age, and it’s up to every mom to chip in and help raise green-minded generations that will keep the planet safe for decades to come.
Finding out that my second baby was going to be a boy was a little bit of a shock. I’m not sure if it’s just because I had told myself it was going to be a girl (like I had previously done with my son), or the simple fact that my motherly instinct was, well, wrong again. Regardless, in that instant, I felt all of the pink-coated dreams quickly slip between my fingers.
I will never raise my daughter to be a homemaker. Now, before all the stay-at-home-moms freak out and start hurling insults my way, let me assert that I have no problem with those who choose to forgo a career in order to be at home with their kids. I think staying at home is a noble, and insanely tough job! But hear me out...
It all started innocently enough with a casual conversation between a close friend and I. She lamented that since her husband rarely made it home before 8PM each night, she was pretty much “like a single mom.” Having been a single mother in the past, and intimately knowing their struggle, my mind wandered to all the single moms out there who managed to make it six months, a year, a decade! How dare she compare her situation to theirs.
A recent forum conversation struck an odd chord with me. It took place in a community of (largely) single mothers and it almost felt live a scorned, dumped mommy club. Having been a single mother for a few years, and also having some experience with the topic at hand, I was in the HUGE minority with my stance on the issue. Perhaps this is due to the fact that I am a millennial mommy and my views are more liberal than those who have gone before me?
Modern society idolizes motherhood. We are supposed to be perfect creatures, who never get a day off, and certainly never make a mistake. These over-the-top expectations often lead to mom-guilt; a snarky little feeling that likes to creep in and ruin your day. If you have a full-time job (or even part-time for that matter), and then go home to another full-time job, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about.
It's funny because it's true. All mommies need a little inspiration from time to time. Someone to say, “…you’re doing a great job you beautiful mess, you.” And if you’re like me, some days you need to know that you are not the only mom who struggles just to keep the house from burning down. If you can't make fun of your parenting mistakes and laugh through the struggles, then you need an adult beverage and to chill out. Seriously.